Ceremony Designs and Outlines

We provide many choices to make your ceremony unique and personal. While there are some judges and officiants that have done over a thousand weddings, they may have only done ONE wedding a thousand times. Same outline, same message. With Pastor Joseph and Our Forever Promise Weddings no two weddings are alike. There is no “set in stone” order and required set of components.

On the other hand, with the advent of “ordained on-line officiants” there are many who will say that they will do whatever you like, but they lack the years of experience and resources to help you define what you want. Many of our clients have never been married. Some have only gone to a few weddings. A large percentage know what they want, but don’t know where to start. We can help immensely by providing you with a plethora of options for your wedding.

The following outline of possible wedding ceremony components includes numerous options. It can serve as template to help you plan your ceremony. Many of these ceremony options can add your own personal touch and make your wedding distinctively different from other weddings.

Your actual wedding will consist of the specific choices you make. Your final ceremony can include traditional parts that are present in most weddings, be as unique as you like or anywhere in between. You may add as many wedding ceremony components as you like but it is suggested to limit the number of “optional ceremony components” in order to maximize their impact and enable your wedding ceremony to flow smoothly.

Most importantly, when we get done designing your ceremony, it will be something that:

you are proud of,

is true to who you and fiancée are,

and at the same time is pleasing to your parents, grandparents, family and friends.


  • Prelude Music
  • Lighting of Candles (or Filling of Ceremonial Sand Sets, Glass Pouring Vases, or other Unity Ceremony Preparation) done by mothers, fathers or other family.
  • Seating of Grandparents
  • Seating of Groom’s Parents and Bride’s Mother
  • Ring Warming/Blessing Ceremony (by family and guests)
  • Processional Music and Wedding Party Attendants Procession
  • Wedding March Music and Grand Announcement of Bride’s Grand Entrance
  • Entrance of Bride
  • Presentation of Bride (Who has the honor to present this bride to this groom to be wed?)
  • Optional Parents Blessing
  • Welcome
  • Blessing and Invocation


  • Wedding Foundation: A brief message by Pastor celebrating your Love and Marriage.
  • Optional Readings: These can either be scripture or secular poems and readings about love and marriage. Typically read by family and friends that have had an important role in your life.


  • The Questions
  • Personal Declaration and affirmation of your love and commitment
  • The Vows
  • Family Celebration Ceremony: Along with including them in a unity ceremony this a great way to include the bride and groom’s children and family in the celebration (see our section on Celebrating Family for more information)

Unity Ceremony Celebrations

The Bride and Groom usually pick one or two of the following ceremony components that can be done with a music selection.

  • Unity Candle Ceremony
  • Sand Ceremony
  • Glass Wedding Ceremony
  • Wine Ceremony
  • Champagne and Chambord Unity Ceremony
  • Rose Ceremony
  • Signing of Marriage Certificate (and/or Vows)
  • Three Cords Ceremony (Cord of Three Strands)
  • Hand Fasting
  • Fisherman’s Knot Ceremony/Tying the Knot Ceremony
  • German Wedding Stein/Cup Ceremony
  • The Vow and Notebook Ceremony
  • Planting Ceremony
  • Asian Tea Ceremony
  • Las Arras (13 Coin Ceremonies)
  • Spanish Lasso Ceremony
  • Floral Ceremonies
  • Hourglass Ceremony
  • The Water Ceremony (there are two different versions of this ceremony)
    • One turns yellow and blue water into green, another through the use of chemistry turns clear water to yellow (sunshine) to blue (water and nurture) to red (passion and romance) to clear again (powerful and pure love)
  • First Communion (Bride and Groom only)
  • Breaking of the Glass or any family tradition that personalizes your wedding
  • See our section on Unity Ceremonies for more information


  • Ring Ceremony
  • Pronouncement
  • Kiss
  • Benediction/Blessing (we have numerous options here from scripture to the Irish or Scottish Wedding Blessings)
  • Presentation of Newlyweds


  • Closing Thank You by Pastor on behalf of the Bride and Groom
  • Announcements
  • Receiving Line or Bride & Groom Release
  • Reception